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Dealing with a stonewalling ex-spouse during your divorce

On Behalf of | May 19, 2023 | blog, Divorce

Divorce is a challenging process, and it becomes even more difficult when one party refuses to communicate or cooperate. This behavior, known as stonewalling, can exacerbate emotional stress and complicate the divorce proceedings.

If your ex-spouse is stonewalling during your divorce, there are several strategies you can employ to navigate this situation effectively.

Keep emotions under control

Stonewalling is a behavior that can provoke strong emotional responses. It is important to stay calm and composed. Reacting impulsively or aggressively can escalate the situation and potentially harm your case. Instead, strive to respond with patience and grace. This approach will serve you well in all interactions related to your divorce.

Rely on documentation

Documentation is key when dealing with a stonewalling ex-spouse. Keep records of all interactions and attempts at communication. This can help establish patterns of behavior and may be valuable if you need to present evidence of non-cooperation to a court.

Focus on the facts

When communicating with your ex-spouse, keep the focus on facts and avoid getting drawn into emotional arguments. Remember, the goal is to resolve the logistical and legal aspects of the divorce. Stick to discussing relevant issues like property division, child custody and alimony.

Seek third-party intervention

In some cases, third-party intervention can help facilitate communication. Mediation can be an effective tool for resolving disputes and breaking through stonewalling behavior. A neutral mediator can help guide the conversation and keep the focus on finding solutions.

Consider court intervention

If stonewalling continues and is hindering the divorce process, it may be necessary to seek court intervention. If your ex-spouse continues to refuse to communicate or cooperate, the court may make decisions on their behalf.

Maintain self-care

Divorce is emotionally draining, especially when dealing with an ex who refuses to work with you. Prioritize self-care throughout the process. Engaging in activities you enjoy, maintaining a healthy lifestyle and seeking support from friends and family can help manage stress and maintain your emotional health.

While the divorce process is not easy, and dealing with an uncooperative ex doesn’t help your stress levels, it is important to remember that the goal is to reach a fair resolution and maintain your emotional health during this difficult time.